“It’s good to have money and the things that money can buy, but it’s good, too, to make sure that you haven’t lost the things that money can’t buy.” — Anonymous

Men are often blamed for sexual transgressions, yet every illicit affair is a two-sided dance. What fuels the attraction of women—especially those with options—toward men of power, wealth, and influence? Beneath the surface, the allure is woven with deep-seated desires, unfulfilled needs, and society’s relentless push for status and validation.

1. The Golden Cage: When Security Comes at a Cost

“I don’t want to just survive—I want to live well. If that means being a mistress, so be it.”
— A status-conscious lawyer

Financial security is not just a luxury; for many women, it is a necessity. A desperate mother with hospital bills, a struggling entrepreneur trying to keep her business afloat, or an ambitious young woman looking for stability—all may find themselves caught in the gravitational pull of a powerful man.

One woman confesses, “I met a businessman at a bar. One drink led to another, and we ended up in bed. The next morning, he handed me S$5,000. I told myself it was a mistake, but when I saw my mother’s medical bills, I went back.”

For some, the decision is not just about money but about escaping an unforgiving world where financial hardship drowns dignity. The cage may be golden, but it is still a cage.

2. Diamonds and Desire: The Allure of a Branded Life

“He is old, but he buys me everything I want. Do I love him? Honestly, no. But who cares?”
— A luxury-loving air stewardess

We live in a world where designer handbags, exotic vacations, and champagne-fueled yacht parties define success. The image of a glamorous woman draped in Chanel, stepping out of a sleek Bentley, whispers of a life where struggle is a foreign concept.

For some women, a powerful man is the ultimate accessory—the gateway to an elite lifestyle. High-end bars, exclusive clubs, and luxurious penthouses become hunting grounds where desires are exchanged for designer labels.

The price? A heart that grows numb with each new purchase.

3. The Velvet Rope: Seeking Status Through Association

“When I walk into a party with him, heads turn. It makes me feel like I matter.”
— An image-conscious personal assistant

Some women measure their worth by the company they keep. To be seen with the wealthy, to have a seat at the table of power, to have one’s name whispered with admiration—these validate existence.

A woman dating an influential businessman or politician basks in borrowed glory. The illusion of power and status fills the void of self-doubt, masking a fragile self-esteem with the shimmer of social acceptance. But when the illusion fades, the emptiness remains.